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Identifying and Eliminating Toxic Relationships

Let me stop by sharing a brief story with you. When I first moved to the United States from Australia back in 2007, I had to establish a new life for myself, which included making new friends. Very serendipitously, I met a woman who lived in the same apartment complex as me, and we very quickly hit it off and became very close friends. However, our relationship was always tumultuous, and she was very judgmental and very controlling at times. 4 years ago I met my now fiancé who she never took the time to get to know or spend any quality time with. Almost 2 years ago now at a dinner at the California Pizza Kitchen, she decided to attack my relationship and attack my fiancé in a very disrespectful manner. This was the straw that broke the camel's back for me, and since that day I have eliminated her from my life entirely, and I can honestly say that it was one of the best decisions I've ever made in my life. Our relationship became toxic because she would consistently bring negativity and trouble into my life. The operative word here is consistent.

If you are in a relationship with someone who is consistently Bringing drama and negativity into your life, then you need to stop and assess that situation and if reasonable, eliminate that person from your life entirely as I did, or significantly decrease the amount of time you spend with them moving forward.

Time is our most precious commodity, and who we spend our time with determines the quality of our Lives.

So, your homework is to take an inventory of the people you spend time with and decide whether they bring positivity, encouragement, support, love and happiness to your life, or do they bring toxicity, negativity, drama and unwanted feelings into your life?

Remember, you get to decide who you spend your time with so make sure you choose those people who will elevate your life to the next level, and limit your exposure to those who try to bring you down.

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Julie Kelly